~Advice~

I'm a very opinionated person so whenever someone comes to me with a problem of any sort I always have something to say about it. Being friends with a very diverse group of people I hear about a lot of very different situations, some of which I can relate to others that I hope I never relate to.

Of course when I have a problem I run to my friends or family for their opinions on what I should do but I'm also a very stubborn person and once I've made up my mind about something there is no changing it. So I listen to their advice some good, some bad but in the end I hardly ever take it because no matter what sticky mess I've gotten myself into deep down I've already decided what to do about it. Am I a freak? Why do I go looking for peoples opinions on things when I have made up my mind 100% and I know there is no changing it?

Maybe everyones like that a little bit! You can be in a situation and deep down you know what you should do but you also know what you're going to do. You go to your friends asking for advice and they usually tell you what you already know you should do but of course.....in one ear and out the other! Because you've made up your mind!

Being in love is a great example...I have this guy friend. Super nice guy, probably one of the sweetest guys I've ever met in my life. Well he has some really crappy luck when it comes to girls and relationships. He always ends up with the horrible girls. You guys think that nice girls end up with crappy guys and they are so dumb for sticking around right? Well let me tell you nice guys end up with really horrific girls too! Its kind of sad that such great people are always attracted to the worst match possible. Anyways....So this guy falls into love and when he falls he falls hard. Girl breaks his heart and he calls me looking for my take on the situation. I go through this with him every time he falls into like, always with a crappy girl, always the advice! You're better off without her, you're such a nice guy you deserve so much better. Why do you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? He lets him self be that back burner guy and he's totally okay with it as long as she comes back. He loves her so much, she means everything to him and yet he allows her to treat him like crap. She runs off messing with her ex boyfriend and he doesn't even care. He's willing to look the other way as long as she says there is still a chance that he could end up being her guy. SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!! Are you out of your mind???????

Its so easy for me to look at his situation and tell him that he's crazy for letting her treat him like that. That he needs to just let her go! But lets be honest here how many of us give that advice to a friend in need when really we should be taking it ourselves? How many of us know that we're in a relationship thats going nowhere with a guy that doesn't even deserve the time of day?

I put up with a guy for 3 years. A guy that all my friends told me was bad for me. That I deserved better, that he would just end up hurting me. I of course thought they were wrong, I defended him, I thought he was just having a tough time and things would get better. I was the idiot!

How come its so easy for us to give advice but not to take it?

This happens to me all the time, not just when it comes to guys but when it comes to just about everything. My friends tell me they hate their jobs or that they hate living at home. Its so easy for me to be like move out, go back to school, save your money, get a different job! But when I look at my situation I just feel stuck. Like every things no as simple for me as it is for my friends. But then I think about it and its like come on....who am I kidding? Either there is no quick fix answer for anyone, like I always think there is when I give advice, or I'm just making excuses for myself and I need to step up and take some of my own advice!

When I give advice it frustrates me so much when people want to complicate it. You listen to their situation and BAM you have an answer for them! When I tell them my solution to their problem they give my reason after reason as to why it wouldn't work. I know its sounds mean but this makes me want to knock them out of their chair! It isn't that complicated at all you just have to get off your ass and take action instead of hanging around complaining about everything. But when it comes to my problems I sit in that chair and make excuse after excuse as to why I can't just quick fix my problems.  So what does that say about me? Am I a hypocrite? Am I a freak?

Smile.....You're Living the Life!

I hear all the time about how depressed people are. I hear about horrible things that are happening all over the world. I hear about heartbreak, financial struggle, confusion and greed. What happened to all the good? If theres one thing I can't stand it would be watching the news. Have you ever noticed that its always full of bad stuff? Haiti, war, car accidents, shootings, price increases, unemployment rates sky rocketing, death! Why can't they show the good stuff? Then it occurred to me that people think in order for it to be considered good it has to be some sort of monumental event. I DON'T THINK SO!!!!! So here is a list of a all the little things that make me feel happy!

~ How light and different your hair feels after you get a hair cut. Its an awesome feeling when you run your fingers through your hair right after you get it cut and no matter how little they take off you can always tell the difference.

~ They way you feel after someone, anyone exchanges a smile with you. Or even better when you are in a pissy mood and you look up to find a stranger who smiles at you with such warmth you can't help but feel good.

~ How great it feels to sit down on the couch after you're done deep cleaning and look at what you've accomplished. Sure getting there wasn't much fun but man its always worth it!

~ Opening your fortune cookie at you've just finished eating your weight in chinese food hoping you got an awesome fortune even though you know its silly.....the way you feel when you read it and realize you did get an awesome fortune...Yay for you!

~ Walking outside after someone has just mowed the grass and being able to smell the freshly cut lawn.

~ Singing in the shower : )

~ Having someone you know surprise you at work

~ Getting flowers for no reason

~ Feeling good after you donate your coins to that santa guy even when you don't really want to let them go

~ Seeing a movie on opening night

~ Kicking your best friends butt in video games.....if you lose make sure you're a good sport about it...if you aren't they wont want to play with you anymore and you'll never get your turn to show them who really rocks : )

~ Eating pizza while watching your favorite TV show

~ That feeling you get when your show ends and you just can't wait for next weeks episode

~ Having someone say I love you and knowing deep down that they really do

~ Reading cute forward emails....yeah I know some of them are annoying but some of them make us smile

~ Paying bills....I know it sounds weird but isn't it a good feeling when you put that envelope in the mail box or hit the submit button knowing that, thats out of the way

~ Eating till your stuffed and you feel like you have to unbutton your pants.....now this isn't good to do all the time but once in awhile its good for you!

~ Receiving a postcard, birthday card, or letter from someone

~ The look on someones face when they open a gift you've given them

~ Realizing that your team made it to playoffs

~ Painting yourself to get ready for the big game

~ Seeing the guys that paint themselves at the game

~ Having a cute stranger notice you

~ Waking up before the alarm actually feeling refreshed and ready to jump out of bed

~ Finding a penny on the ground

~ Lounging on the couch with your blankie watching your favorite DVDs

~ Finding out someone you didn't think knew you existed knows your name

~ Hearing your new favorite song on the radio

~ Riding around in the summer with your windows down and the radio blasting

~ Rearranging your bedroom furniture

~ Seeing how happy your pets are to see you when you walk in the door

~ Falling asleep on the phone with that special someone

~ Decorating for a holiday or a party

~ Buying something new for yourself

~ Looking at old pictures

~ Wining on a scratch off lotto ticket...even if its only $2

~ Getting every green light when your driving somewhere

~ Getting a good grade

~ Having someone compliment you

~ How awesome your finger nails look when they've just been painted

~ Digging out the summer clothes because its finally SHORT weather! : )

~ Jumping into the pool for the first time every day

~ Getting into bed after you've just put clean sheets on....the crisp cool feel of clean sheets

~ Having a bee fly right by you and not getting stung

~ Eating ice cream in the summer

~ Reaching in your coat pocket and finding money

~ Opening your wallet and seeing money!

~ Knowing you only have an hour left before your day off

~ Having someone ask for your advice

~ Watching your favorite Disney classic

~ Realizing just how soft your skin is

~ Seeing a slug bug on the road

~ Walking outside and realizing your flowers have bloomed

~ Realizing just how pretty your neighborhood is

~ Seeing a rainbow after it rains

~ Hearing a funny joke

~ Knowing you left your waiter a really good tip

~ Getting in a car thats already warm when its freezing outside

~ Spending time with people you love



I'm sure I can go on forever but I think thats a pretty good list and I'm sure you get the idea. Not everything good has to be a significant event in your life. Sometimes the best things in life are the smallest and a lot of us don't even realize we're missing out on them waiting for something bigger!

There's always a lesson to learn!

How many wrong turns can you make before you get where you're going?

I believe that everything happens for a reason! I suppose that also goes with what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger!

As hard as both of these things are to accept I suppose its true. I mean really, think about it.....every bad thing that has happened during my life has taught me something or made me stronger as a person. 

When you go through a break up with someone you love you think its the absolute worse. How will you ever be able to get over it? With some time, some tears and maybe some chocolate trust me you will and when you do you'll realize that your better off with out him! Of course that relationship was fun right and you'll never want to forget the good times and you sure wont forget the bad but now you've learned. You've grown as a person. Lucky you....you're one step closer to finding your prince charming! : )

How about when you go through hard financial times? Ring a bell for anyone? As much as it sucks to have to be broke all the time, to have to struggle to make that car payment or to find that extra cash to keep your car off check gage there is a reason for it. Did you ever think that maybe your supposed to learn to budget your money or that your being taught a bigger lesson....like you should appreciate what you have! There will always be someone out there who has less than you and now a days people always want more! Got to have the latest phone, hand bag, jeans, shoes, etc. I'm not saying that I never fall into that role because I do a lot just like most people. I'm just saying that maybe we're being taught a lesson. We shouldn't take what we have for granted! Appreciate that you have a cell phone that works....there's really no reason you absolutely have to go buy that new blackberry as soon as its released. Or for the Apple fans out there....the iphone. I know a guy thats been through more iphones than I've had cellphones and trust me those things aren't cheap. If you have an iphone is it really necessary to go buy a new one every time they release a new version?

Medical problems anyone? I myself am a narcoleptic. Now a lot of people don't think this is a serious problem. In fact my own family seems to think that it should be a breeze to live with. Well guys its not! In fact its extremely difficult to live with. As much as I could scream and shout about how its not fair that I was given this disability I can also look you in the eye and tell you that a lot of good has come from it too. There are a few main lessons I believe I'm suppose to learn from this but in all honesty I'm still working on learning them. The first is that being put in a tough situation doesn't give you reason to give up! You kind of just have to suck it up and accept that life wont be as easy as you thought. The second lesson I believe I was mean to learn is that I'm a lot stronger than I give myself credit for. 

I've been through a lot of tough stuff this past year, year and a half. Being a young adult its been really hard on me. Taking on more problems than any one person should have to I can definitely say from experience that what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger!