~Advice~

I'm a very opinionated person so whenever someone comes to me with a problem of any sort I always have something to say about it. Being friends with a very diverse group of people I hear about a lot of very different situations, some of which I can relate to others that I hope I never relate to.

Of course when I have a problem I run to my friends or family for their opinions on what I should do but I'm also a very stubborn person and once I've made up my mind about something there is no changing it. So I listen to their advice some good, some bad but in the end I hardly ever take it because no matter what sticky mess I've gotten myself into deep down I've already decided what to do about it. Am I a freak? Why do I go looking for peoples opinions on things when I have made up my mind 100% and I know there is no changing it?

Maybe everyones like that a little bit! You can be in a situation and deep down you know what you should do but you also know what you're going to do. You go to your friends asking for advice and they usually tell you what you already know you should do but of course.....in one ear and out the other! Because you've made up your mind!

Being in love is a great example...I have this guy friend. Super nice guy, probably one of the sweetest guys I've ever met in my life. Well he has some really crappy luck when it comes to girls and relationships. He always ends up with the horrible girls. You guys think that nice girls end up with crappy guys and they are so dumb for sticking around right? Well let me tell you nice guys end up with really horrific girls too! Its kind of sad that such great people are always attracted to the worst match possible. Anyways....So this guy falls into love and when he falls he falls hard. Girl breaks his heart and he calls me looking for my take on the situation. I go through this with him every time he falls into like, always with a crappy girl, always the advice! You're better off without her, you're such a nice guy you deserve so much better. Why do you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? He lets him self be that back burner guy and he's totally okay with it as long as she comes back. He loves her so much, she means everything to him and yet he allows her to treat him like crap. She runs off messing with her ex boyfriend and he doesn't even care. He's willing to look the other way as long as she says there is still a chance that he could end up being her guy. SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!! Are you out of your mind???????

Its so easy for me to look at his situation and tell him that he's crazy for letting her treat him like that. That he needs to just let her go! But lets be honest here how many of us give that advice to a friend in need when really we should be taking it ourselves? How many of us know that we're in a relationship thats going nowhere with a guy that doesn't even deserve the time of day?

I put up with a guy for 3 years. A guy that all my friends told me was bad for me. That I deserved better, that he would just end up hurting me. I of course thought they were wrong, I defended him, I thought he was just having a tough time and things would get better. I was the idiot!

How come its so easy for us to give advice but not to take it?

This happens to me all the time, not just when it comes to guys but when it comes to just about everything. My friends tell me they hate their jobs or that they hate living at home. Its so easy for me to be like move out, go back to school, save your money, get a different job! But when I look at my situation I just feel stuck. Like every things no as simple for me as it is for my friends. But then I think about it and its like come on....who am I kidding? Either there is no quick fix answer for anyone, like I always think there is when I give advice, or I'm just making excuses for myself and I need to step up and take some of my own advice!

When I give advice it frustrates me so much when people want to complicate it. You listen to their situation and BAM you have an answer for them! When I tell them my solution to their problem they give my reason after reason as to why it wouldn't work. I know its sounds mean but this makes me want to knock them out of their chair! It isn't that complicated at all you just have to get off your ass and take action instead of hanging around complaining about everything. But when it comes to my problems I sit in that chair and make excuse after excuse as to why I can't just quick fix my problems.  So what does that say about me? Am I a hypocrite? Am I a freak?